a few days ago, an friend asked:

'how long does it take a girl to get over her ex?'

it really got me thinking ya know. some people get over relationships in a blink of an eye, some people take weeks, months, and probably even years.

in my view, how long a person gets over a relationship depends on how deep one has fallen for the other.

after hearing that from me, my friend exclaimed:

'but she said she left me after months of consideration.'

well. i dont know anything about that. but what i can say is, if u've fallen deep, it'll take longer for you to get over it.

like me.

pardon the emo-ness. hehe:p

Who Wants the Normal One Cause Plainly Normal is Alwayz Such a Bore

Sorry for the late update, I've just been crazily busy darlinz!

Nehowz..

The following applies to the girls who falls for the wrong boyz or better known as the bad boyz. This category of guyz can be further broken down. You have the playas, the ones who are into bad habits such as smoking or drinking and then there's the plain downright non normal types. I know the final catagory very well cause am one of those gurlz who seems to alwayz go for these type of guyz. I never to seem to like the normal, decent ones.*sigh*

The plain weird: The kind of guy that does not call you back after a date, says he'll message or call you but doesnt. Talks to you and acts extra nice when he feels like it or if its his good day. His somewhat possesive in his own quirky ways. Gets pissed off when you get close to any other guy and doesn't bother talking to you until his calm down. Says he likes you but drives you insane but doing the complete opposite gestures. Checks out girls in front of you and tells you have a self esteem problems when you get annoyed. He pisses you off cause his find your reactions amusing. Never falls for your cute moves. And knows exactly how to get his way with you!

Yes thats my defination of the weird boy. I've fallen for this type of guy multiple times and no matter how hard I try to stay away from them, they somehow found their way into my life. Wander what attracts us to them. Their quirkyness, the fact that they're not normal perhaps or maybe its the fact that they keep us constantly on our toes. It's alwayz a roller coaster ride from the beginning with them and sometimes you just wish it'll stop but when it does, you find yourself missing them.Like wth right! They drove you insane and never gave explanations but theres just something that makes you going back for more.

Getting into a relationship with these kind of guyz can have 2 outcomes:

1. He'll change his quirky ways for you because he lovez you

2. He'll stay the same cause that who he is and you have to adjust to him

If you really like the guy and you're willing to change for him then go ahead and be with him but if you want him to change, I suggest you don't put all your hope on this guy cause there is a 50% chance of him changing.Cause one day you may realize that the complete opposite happened. This I've learned from experiences. But also make sure you don't change him too much, you definately dont want to lose the guy you fell in love with.

So to the girlz who have a thing for these kind of guyz,be careful and watch out at all times. His not the best guy to fall in love with but if you're willing to make the effort for him, then go ahead and all the best.

Cheers to the weirdos!

-xoxo-
Izzy

PT : Love..

Just for the record, this post is not caused by anything I feel or because I'm emo or anything. Just some thoughts I thought were worth putting down here. Now that we've got that clear, let's move on :)

Falling in love. Why do they call it that? Why not " walking in love "," jumping in love", " wading in love", " diving in love " or any other expression? It's because all those verbs seem to point towards some sort of force of will. That you actually intended this to happen and most likely moved towards it in hopes of it happening. But that's not to say that nobody does not plan to fall in love. Am I confusing you? I hope not.

But when you fall in love, it's something that cannot be stopped, avoided and you can't help it! Of course, we try our best to avoid it, pushing, shoving and clinging on until we're so badly bruised, battered that we can hardly walk. But in the end, we're still sucked into this black hole called love.

That's why.

Like falling into one of those pits. It's not that you want to fall in. I mean, come on, nobody is that stupid to fall in on purpose. You could get hurt, but, like I said, you can't do anything about it.

And..

There's a HUGE difference between..

I love you..
and..
I'm in love with you.

Just think about it for a bit. Feedback is welcomed.

CheL's Test 101..

Posting because Izzy isn't updating. Posting because I don't want to study.

During lunch, I was having some problems with the tomato sauce. It. Just. Did. Not. Want. To. Come. OUT. I tried several ways to get it out. Turning the bottle, different angles, closing the cap, shaking it then pouring again but NOTHING seemed to make it come out.

Drastic measures were needed.

I began HITTING the BOTTOM of the BOTTLE while it was UPSIDEDOWN.

me : Imagine if I hit hit hit, then it got onto your shirt.
Adam : Yeah. Imagine if you were out on a date with a guy then you got it on his shirt. It would be funny! Then he dumps you. lol..
me : That ain't funny!
Adam : But then again, if he dumps you because of that it means he's not worth being around.

Then it occured to me, that was quite true.

Adam : You could like test him. Then it could become like a test for all guys.

And then * dramatic drum roll *, "Tomato Test"was BORN!

So, next time you go out on a date and you think the guy sitting across you might be a jerk and you need to make sure that you won't be making a mistake, do the Tomato Test!

Credits to Weng ~... I don't want to plagiarize now. lol..

Test was founded in Secret Recipe of PBD. Yup, that's where it's origin is. Impressive, huh.

Sorry lahhh. I'm fresh out of ideas for now! * sigh * ~..

okay. today's topic is a lil bit odd. haha:p i've sorta run out of ideas on what to write about. so forgive me *smiles*

last saturday i went out with a friend to one utama and we bumped into another friend. our conversation started like this:

hey! so long never see you guys alredi
*at this point, we laugh and hug and stuff lar*
so what you two doing here? pak thor ah?

it seems that everytime you go out alone with a person of the opposite sex, people automatically think you're like dating or something. we all modern ppl lar. can go out without actually being romantically involved. there's nothing wrong with that. that friend wasnt the only one who thought we were pak thor-ing. i also met one of my teachers in high school and he thought so too. gosh. dont assume lar. haha:p

another thing i wanna talk about is the meaning of the word date. according to the dictionary, *goes to grab dictionary and flips furiously through the pages* the word date means a appointment or a social engagement with a person, same sex or opposite sex. i remember having an argument with a certain person about this definition. the said person was taking an old school friend out to dinner and a movie and i told him to enjoy his date. he insisted that it wasnt a date because he doesnt like her! well. you can go on a date with a person you dont like you know. it says so, according to the dictionary.

thats all i have to say for now. haha:p till next time people. bye!

Dilemma of Decisions 101..

I was out with Adam yesterday. Eh, so potong lah Izzy post before me. Maybe i'll delay this post for another day or two. Yeah, I shall. Well, when I say yesterday I actually mean Sunday so.. well, it doesn't really matter.

Moving on, we began talking about how some girls end up dumping their boyfriends because the BOYfriend they don't act " man " enough so to speak. haha. Do you get it?

For example, we girls always want a guy who is " tough " so we can therefore feel " safe ". haha.. so cliche sounding, but just bear with me. Whenever we go out, we always want the guy to choose the movie, where we want to eat, decide where we're going, what we're going to do and so on so forth. Because if WE end up doing it all the time, we'd feel as though we were the more dominant one and that we wore the pants in the relationship.

On the other hand, from a guy's point of view, he thinks he is being the gentleman when he allows his lady friend to decide/choose what they're going to eat, where they're going to go, what they want to do, what they're going to watch.. etc. I can't even BEGIN to tell you how WRONG you are when you DO that.

* sigh *.

Guys, get it through your heads, we do NOT want to make decisions. Just make it for us! If we don't like it, don't worry. We're not stupid. We'd tell you if we were totally against something or couldn't put up with it, BUT if we say nothing then it's totally fine with us. Don't worry!

If everyone understands that then, we could avoid all the heartbreaks and problems that arise from the whole decision dilemma.

Also, as in the previous post, Izzy said that we're 21st Century women and the whole guy making the first/move also translated as being the dominant should be broken, honestly? MOST if not ALL women like to be in the submissive role. I'm not KIDDING. We like to be TAKEN CARE OF. hahaha.

We're such losers but then again, you can't live with us, can't live without us either.

Oh and.. I know sometimes, it's not that the guy doesn't want to choose but it's because he just doesn't know WHAT to choose. Ladies, give me some help lah. Kesian the fella a bit lah. Okay? Like they said, relationships are two ways from two people.

Suck it up guys, it's going to be a long bumpy ride. =D

Just A Thought

The other day most probably on Sunday..I can't seem to remember exactly when though..newayzz Ben and I were having this very interesting convo.And he was like "hey u could be put on caged emotions"..haha..I didnt even knew he read this..lolz

We were debating, mind you not arguing kies, about the whole "who is suppose to ask who out first/ tell the other party "their feelings" first. From his point of view, he was saying that it would be nice for a change if the gurl takes the effort to go up to the guy and tell him how he feels instead of alwayz the guy.He said that the tradition should be broken.While I was insisting that gurlz love it when a guy gathers up his guts and makes the move.It makes us feel rather speacial. Dont ya think!! :D And this has been practiced for a really long time, I just don't see the point of changing this just cause its the 21st century. It's called being a gentleman la. Well we went on about this for a while and headed to the relationship side of things.

The Following is The Summary:

1. A guy should be decent and pay for dates..its okies to occasional let her pay and ladies do be nice and take out your wallet once a while ya but guyz dont be a loserr and ask her to split the bill all the time by givin her the modern age talk! It just plainly means ur cheap!!

2. It's not alwayz up to the guy to make the girl feel special in a relationship. Sometimes its nice when you make the effort as well.Dont just sit there and wait him to shower you with attention and gifts. You'll be amused by the reactions you get!

Well I agreed on this both.A relationship takes 2.So I think you'll make him happy if you do something sweet every once a while :)

So far these were the two intersting topics we talked about.Will update more when we explore more issues like the above..!

xoxo
-Izzy-