you know how in some relationships, couples fight and make up and fight and make up, and they dont fight for a long time, and then suddenly after one huge massive fight, they have a nasty breakup and probably never speak to each other again?


well, interestingly, i heard and read a theory about that and i'm gonna share it here.


there's a book romance novel in my house where it tells a story about a set of twins and a wedding and how the twin who was supposed to be getting married runs off with another dude and the remaining twin takes her place and bla bla bla. thats not the point of this though. there was one scene in the book where the newlyweds were on a plane headed for their honeymoon and they meet this elderly couple on the same plane. the elderly couple gave them a lil advice which was to never go to bed mad at each other.

oddly, my dear a certain somebody also said almost the same thing to me during most of our many fights. he told me to never end the day without knowing that he/she will be yours the next day.

i think that does help strengthen a relationship. it certainly has with mine. we do fight a lot and the main cause of all those fights is basically the mentioned big event in the previous post. and every single time before we put down the phone, he always makes sure that i am his at least for tomorrow.

the reason why the situation at the top of this post happens is cuz everytime they fight, somebody compromises and all the problems just get swept under the carpet and dont get solved. so it piles up and accumulates and then, it gets blown up in such a huge massive proportion that there is nothing that you can do to solve it but break up.

i used to be kinda am still like that. i hardly solve anything right away. everytime i get upset or i have a problem, i'll be upset and angry about it for a little bit and then i'll be smiling and happy again cuz i've taken it and locked it away inside a box. but when the box becomes full and cannot hold anything else, what was i to do? i had to empty it so that more problems can be stored inside. to my annoyance, i cant do that anymore cuz my dear will drag it out of me. we do fight about it but, i guess it has been solved by now. so it wont repeat over and over again.

well, i guess the perfect way to keep a relationship going is to tackle all problems at once and not hide it away. what do you think?