I always end up telling myself that it's just infatuation or just a temporal feeling because let's face it. It is one of the most wonderful feeling to know that someone out there cares, wants and craves for you. To be the object of such affection is an ego boost to anyone and because of that, most people are blinded and are unable to differentiate between actually loving the other person and loving the way the other person makes them feel.
Yes, to be fair it is a little bit of both. You first get attracted by how the other person treats you and how it makes you feel and then you slowly start appreciating the other person and the rest would hopefully be history. Well, that's my theory anyhow. But how do you know it's the above? I mean, classical conditioning, anyone? You stay because it makes you feel good. Plain and simple.
What happens if in that time that you stay with the other person, you just end up being all selfish and just keep on taking? What about the other person? What if you don't end up developing the feelings you thought you would? It would be unfair to your partner, yes? Because while you're there having the time of your life, they are there falling more and more in love with you only to be met with disappointment and hurt.
Of course the disappointment is me assuming that you would have enough brains to tell them that in the end, you just don't feel that way unless you want to go along and play the charade of perfect lovers and enter into a one-sided loveless relationship.
If you can stomach hurting the other person so badly for your entertainment then I think you need to get some help. But for those of you who can't, what do you do then?
Just dismiss it before it gets any worse or take the chance and hope that you may actually fall in love with the person?
Am I even making sense here? Oh goodness, I should just go to bed.
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