Volcanoes Can Erupt...

I'm just full of posts this month :) And for the record, not everything I post is directed at someone, anyone. Please get off your high horse and realize that the world doesn't revolve around you :)

You know, I was just thinking. If your friends and your significant other ( in this case just boyfriend or girlfriend. Let's not even get into the whole marriage part yet.. ), if they hate each other then pretty much, the relationship isn't going to work out.

Now now, before you chuck hot water at me or call me a condom, just hear me out.

Firstly, you choose your friends based on how well you get along with them. You guys would have similar taste, character, you get it.. So, it's safe to assume that if your friends hate your boyfriend/girlfriend, there's a high possibility that you're going to eventually not like him/her very much.

Furthermore, haven't you noticed that, when you have a psycho boyfriend/girlfriend, your friends realize it months and months before you do. See, they don't have the whole euphoric blinding disease called love. Not dissing love, I for one am in love with love :)

So! Because these two groups of people dislike one another, they avoid each other. And you're forced to pick either to hang out with your boyfriend/girlfriend or your bunch of friends. After a while, alienation occurs either between you and your friends, whereby you ditch them and you're totally engulfed in the world that consist of only you and your boyfriend/girlfriend. Or, less likely to happen, alienation between you and your boyfriend/girlfriend.

Need I go on why this is bad?

I mean, just think about it logically. Your friends are your friends. They know you so well, even more so than your boyfriend/girlfriend will at this point. You guys have been through thick and thin, seen each other grow up and.. Maybe even known you your whole life. These people have seen you when you thought no one was looking, held your hand when you were lost in your own world and thoughts, and even seen you without make-up or heard you fart! You can't compete with bonds like that. They know you better than you may know yourself.

Real friends don't have ulterior motives. They're your friends.

This doesn't mean it's easy. I know it's not. To be able to find someone whom you're head over heels in love for and at the same time have your friends get along smoothly.

But really, they're your friends. Trust them :)

P/S - Ms. Asha, please don't terasa. Not for you, not at all.