I don't know if this holds true for the rest of you but the virgin species seems to be on the brink of extinction. Everyone seems to be doing " someone ". Sex has become a way of displaying how much you love the other person. In short, sex has become common, meaningless and a pastime.
What on earth is wrong with the world!
Perhaps it's just me with my traditional mindset so this seems to bother me. In my world, sex is not just a physical act of pleasure between two people. Oh goodness, it's so much more than that. Not because of what is done but because of what it represents and symbolizes. I've been taught since I was a young girl that your virginity is your most precious possession and once it's gone, that's it. You shouldn't lose it to just anyone.
But really, if it's such a special gift then don't you want to be sure that the person you're giving it to is the right person? I have a similar post on here : Pass the cup around. If you're interested, feel free to check it out.
As harsh as it is to say this, once you sleep around, you have kinda been " defiled ". You're not pure, untouched and special ( Only in the untouched virgin sense ). And you're supposed to give yourself as a gift to your partner? But it's not top grade anymore. Other hands, other people have touched your gift and you're wanting to give that to the person you're so in love with and want to spend your entire future with? Really! Think about it.
And what if you were on the other side, where you're the " pure " one. Don't you think you're being shortchanged? There you are saving yourself, resisting all sorts of temptation so that you can be all special for your significant other only to find out you're not getting the same in return. How does that make you feel?
To make it worse, if you're anything like the possessive person I am, it would drive you insane with rage to know that someone else besides you has done all these intimate things with your lover. Someone else has touched your " possession ". You're not the first anymore! You're probably second, third, forth or who knows but you get my point.
Argument. If you truly love the other person you will accept them for everything they are and have been. True, that you should but honestly speaking, don't you think it's going to bother the other person if even the slightest? And the best part? People always try to be people pleasers and try to be politically correct and know that if you ask them they should say that your past doesn't bother them at all, not one bit.
Argument. If the both of you are virgins, then you'd be awkwardly fumbling during your first time because you didn't know what you were doing. But if one had previous experience, then you know, you'd have better sex cause the other person knows what he/she is doing. True but really, would you want to have sex in a way someone else taught your future husband/wife? Like, it's not something original being produced by the both of you. It's not yours.
I don't know if I can accept someone who has been touched before. As mentioned earlier, I am the party that knows I should be politically correct. I know there's nothing I can do about the other person and what happened before me but at the same time, you can't help that it plagues your mind.
I need to clear my head.
On a completely random note, " Virgo " means sexually inexperienced woman in Latin.
If you're also a Virgo, please keep yourself for marriage.
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