okay. today's topic is a lil bit odd. haha:p i've sorta run out of ideas on what to write about. so forgive me *smiles*

last saturday i went out with a friend to one utama and we bumped into another friend. our conversation started like this:

hey! so long never see you guys alredi
*at this point, we laugh and hug and stuff lar*
so what you two doing here? pak thor ah?

it seems that everytime you go out alone with a person of the opposite sex, people automatically think you're like dating or something. we all modern ppl lar. can go out without actually being romantically involved. there's nothing wrong with that. that friend wasnt the only one who thought we were pak thor-ing. i also met one of my teachers in high school and he thought so too. gosh. dont assume lar. haha:p

another thing i wanna talk about is the meaning of the word date. according to the dictionary, *goes to grab dictionary and flips furiously through the pages* the word date means a appointment or a social engagement with a person, same sex or opposite sex. i remember having an argument with a certain person about this definition. the said person was taking an old school friend out to dinner and a movie and i told him to enjoy his date. he insisted that it wasnt a date because he doesnt like her! well. you can go on a date with a person you dont like you know. it says so, according to the dictionary.

thats all i have to say for now. haha:p till next time people. bye!

Dilemma of Decisions 101..

I was out with Adam yesterday. Eh, so potong lah Izzy post before me. Maybe i'll delay this post for another day or two. Yeah, I shall. Well, when I say yesterday I actually mean Sunday so.. well, it doesn't really matter.

Moving on, we began talking about how some girls end up dumping their boyfriends because the BOYfriend they don't act " man " enough so to speak. haha. Do you get it?

For example, we girls always want a guy who is " tough " so we can therefore feel " safe ". haha.. so cliche sounding, but just bear with me. Whenever we go out, we always want the guy to choose the movie, where we want to eat, decide where we're going, what we're going to do and so on so forth. Because if WE end up doing it all the time, we'd feel as though we were the more dominant one and that we wore the pants in the relationship.

On the other hand, from a guy's point of view, he thinks he is being the gentleman when he allows his lady friend to decide/choose what they're going to eat, where they're going to go, what they want to do, what they're going to watch.. etc. I can't even BEGIN to tell you how WRONG you are when you DO that.

* sigh *.

Guys, get it through your heads, we do NOT want to make decisions. Just make it for us! If we don't like it, don't worry. We're not stupid. We'd tell you if we were totally against something or couldn't put up with it, BUT if we say nothing then it's totally fine with us. Don't worry!

If everyone understands that then, we could avoid all the heartbreaks and problems that arise from the whole decision dilemma.

Also, as in the previous post, Izzy said that we're 21st Century women and the whole guy making the first/move also translated as being the dominant should be broken, honestly? MOST if not ALL women like to be in the submissive role. I'm not KIDDING. We like to be TAKEN CARE OF. hahaha.

We're such losers but then again, you can't live with us, can't live without us either.

Oh and.. I know sometimes, it's not that the guy doesn't want to choose but it's because he just doesn't know WHAT to choose. Ladies, give me some help lah. Kesian the fella a bit lah. Okay? Like they said, relationships are two ways from two people.

Suck it up guys, it's going to be a long bumpy ride. =D

Just A Thought

The other day most probably on Sunday..I can't seem to remember exactly when though..newayzz Ben and I were having this very interesting convo.And he was like "hey u could be put on caged emotions"..haha..I didnt even knew he read this..lolz

We were debating, mind you not arguing kies, about the whole "who is suppose to ask who out first/ tell the other party "their feelings" first. From his point of view, he was saying that it would be nice for a change if the gurl takes the effort to go up to the guy and tell him how he feels instead of alwayz the guy.He said that the tradition should be broken.While I was insisting that gurlz love it when a guy gathers up his guts and makes the move.It makes us feel rather speacial. Dont ya think!! :D And this has been practiced for a really long time, I just don't see the point of changing this just cause its the 21st century. It's called being a gentleman la. Well we went on about this for a while and headed to the relationship side of things.

The Following is The Summary:

1. A guy should be decent and pay for dates..its okies to occasional let her pay and ladies do be nice and take out your wallet once a while ya but guyz dont be a loserr and ask her to split the bill all the time by givin her the modern age talk! It just plainly means ur cheap!!

2. It's not alwayz up to the guy to make the girl feel special in a relationship. Sometimes its nice when you make the effort as well.Dont just sit there and wait him to shower you with attention and gifts. You'll be amused by the reactions you get!

Well I agreed on this both.A relationship takes 2.So I think you'll make him happy if you do something sweet every once a while :)

So far these were the two intersting topics we talked about.Will update more when we explore more issues like the above..!

xoxo
-Izzy-

have you ever heard anybody say that 2 ppl who are in a relationship cannot be good friends again after the relationship is over? i have. and i honestly do not see any reason why that cant happen.

this brings me back to my high school days, where my classmates were shocked to hear that i am good friends with my ex. they all thought it was impossible and that i was out of my mind. they asked me all sorts of questions like, like how could i possibly stay friends with an ex and why would i want to do so? they made it sound like it was such an unusual thing.

well. to me, there is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. i mean, after all, im sure ur ex was once ur friend and there is no harm in being friends. maybe it won work so well for some of you, and it might go well for some, like me. it may take time and a little effort from both sides, but its not impossible.

so think about it. being friends with an ex is actually not a bad idea. i should know. im friends with all of them. hehe:p

Sperms and sperms = no kids.

I always believe the saying that, " There's someone out there for everyone."

But right now, the population of the world is 3 women to 1 man. So.. what does that mean?

Oh right, I also forgot to mention that there are lots of gays, bisexuals AND tranversites out there. Most transversites are guys chaging to become women. Which would make the population.. well, worst! Maybe even 3 real and 1 fake woman to 1 man..? o.O

Maybe.. in 500 years, we'd be extinct and the only way we'd continue living is my artificial insemination ( It's a big word that I can't spell! )..

Odd though. proper update in the near future. Just.. let me know what you think?

A boy and a Girl

I haven't been able to update much because of some family stuff thats been keeping insanely busy that I've barely had time to even update my own blog.So this is my 2nd post!

Lately this issue has been lingering in my mind.It's been rather conteversial and some plainly believe its impossible.But personally after much debate with myself and going through much experience; I've decided that this is possible

The Issue:

Is a guy and girl able to remain best friends and ONLY friends?

Ok so I know many of you are disagreeing me right now.Friends I have spoken to mostly have said its not possible and feelings are sure to get in the way. But after reading articles and much from personal experience, I think that if both sides work on it,it can work.

I'm not saying tha feelings won't develop.For one side,feelings will definately bloom or maybe it wont.This really depends on the two people and their chemistry and such.Sometimes one prefers to keep the feelings to themselves but then there are those that are willing to take the risk.

These situations may led to two outcomes:
1. A happy/good relationship

2. A bad relationship and a broken friendship

But the con here is that once you cross that line,there is really no going back.Seriously.Unless you are absolutely sure that the other party share the same feelings then take the chance and go for it but if you're in the middle and in the middle of the fence,it's best you give it time and see how it goes.

If you are in the following situation, analyze your situation and go with your heart.But also beware of the consequences..they are quite severe.

xoxo

hey again people. hope u all had a great merdeka weekend. long weekend. so today's topic is about guys and driving.

generally, i would say guys drive fast. out of all the cars i've sat in that were driven by guys, a rather large majority drives fast, unless their car memang super cacat and cannot drive fast lar. that one memang tada boleh tolong lar. haha:p

most guys are really competitive drivers. like when they see their friends on the road driving, and suddenly, a race is on and they press down on the accelerator as if their life depends on it. haha:p okay. that is a bit of an exaggeration but u get my point. right? and it sometimes happens when there is a girl in the car! which i think its like wrong man. lol.

yes they race. fine. but sometimes, it gets kinda dangerous, esp if like their cars are not meant for racing. super dangerous. and when we tell them, they give us this line

'boys will be boys'

so? u all trying to kill urself izzit? press accelerator and do stunt, cut here cut there on the road. so guys, please, dont do stupid things like race with each other on the road.

oh. and i do know of a guy who actually drives safer with a girl in the car. how about that guys? follow his example :) its a good one.

BL : Post-cooking

A new month, calls for a new post.

I shall be posting this on behalf of Izzy since she's been pretty tied up with several things. ( I'm guessing but, pretty sure I'm right. )

Pstt! BL in the title stands for Behavioral Lesson. Got that? Now that we've got that straight, let's continue.

We're focusing on Post-cooking in the Kitchen. You're probably wondering what I'm going on about. Well, this isn't just some wishful thinking but I actually know someone who acts this way, and I hope that other males would follow suit after reading this.

This lovely male is actually my uncle. Uncle Clifford, an ang moh but he has this mind set that, preparing a meal is responsibility of both. Here's what goes on.

Since his wife has prepared and cooked, therefore! He finds it HIS responsibility to WASH UP the ENTIRE KITCHEN. He shoos her out of the kitchen, piles all the dishes, and begins to wash up the entire place. Best part is that, once he's done, the kitchen is spotless and squeaky clean. * sigh *. Now THAT's a man.

I know how frustrating it is for us ladies to have to wash up after ourselves. I know I don't like baking/cooking little portions because the washing up after that is.. something I don't quite fancy. He even sweeps and mops after each time. That's a hero! =D in the kitchen at least. ahakz ~..

So cave men out there, learn to WASH UP AFTER YOUR WOMAN IN THE KITCHEN. She'll lov you tons for it. I promise!