BL : The Wheels of the Car go Round and Round.

Hello people of the world, how is your day going? Fine, I hope. Well, I couldn't sleep and thought I'd pop on here for a bit and give you all a little more reading material. Aren't I a sweety?

Being a girl in a very asian culture, I am brought up to accept that men are the superior gender and they go out and bring home the 'bacon' while women stay home and train to be the perfect homemakers. Of course this follows suit with every other stereotype about gender. For today, we shall focus on being a man and how it encompasses being a gentleman, paying for dates and the list continues.

I have two thoughts today. The first is if you are a guy and you drop a female home (whether in a relationship or not), do you wait for her to enter the house before you drive off?

Answer is? Definitely! The world is so dangerous today, anything can happen in that short period of time from the gate to the front door. Not only that, you ensure that she didn't forget her keys and end up being locked outside or.. Well, insert more reasons here. But you get my drift, don't you?

Now for the second question. This is where it gets interesting. In the world today, many women have independence and now drive themselves around. Sometimes, it may even be that the woman has a car and the man doesn't. In those cases, (again it is irrelevant if you're dating or not) the female would then proceed to drop the male home.

Now, what I want to know is, do you wait for him to enter his house before driving off? Would his masculinity be threatened by you, a girl, doing so? Just think about it for a bit. It's not only that you already have to drop him off when it should be the other way around but now you also have to wait for him? And what about him being a 'man' so he can take care of himself. Which also means that if a thief was to attack him, he would obviously be able to handle the situation by himself.

So, I'm at a lost. For one, I would obviously want to ensure his safety. And it's rude to drive off without waiting. But on the other hand, I don't want to offend him nor hurt his ego. Correct? Well, if anyone has other things to add or share, do let me know. I'm all ears.

Selfish Person.

A happy new year to you all! It's great to see that there are still visitors though I haven't updated in umpteenth years. But it's a new year and we shall see what new ideas spring to mind along with the days.

In anycase, have you ever had a situation where something happened and you know something happened but you refused to mention it because you were afraid of 'fighting' so much? In a sense, it's as though you're tip toe-ing around the other person to 'avoid' any possible drama? I'm sure you have. There's a higher tendency to happen between couples that have passed the one year mark. I'll probably explain why in another post. Guess you'll just have to stay tuned but for one, let's focus on the thought at that.

In my mind, as long as you don't say anything, the issue isn't there. You can both go along your lives as though nothing is the matter. Even if the white elephant is staring you right in the face, it doesn't exist because no one said anything.

But once I mention it, and even though the issue is resolved, each time something similar happens the previously solved issue will resurface. It will always be at the back of your mind. And I don't want that, because I will see and notice it. And when I see it, I will feel the guilt that this is happening only because I said something and I was being selfish.

But at the end of the day, aren't we all selfish people?