anyways thats besides the point. i want to talk about LDR (long distance relationships). its an issue for me now that i am going to be overseas. the parentals have unconsciously inserted the fact that they think i should be boyfriend-less before going to the states, giving an example of a friend that went to the us first, leaving his gf behind here. but she eventually joined him in the us. so, no biggie.
well. what if you had to leave the person you love behind? what will you do? thats that main question. all this time, a lot of people have said to me the LDR's are a no no, a guarenteed failure. well, here are a couple of steps that a friend of mine had penned down about how to keep LDR's going. whether it'll work or not, i guess we'll just have to wait and see.
Both party would have to put in the extra effort and be EQUALLY committed.
- make time for each other.
- talk to each other at least everyday.
- don't think pessimistically.
- don't listen to his friends or your friends (you just don't know what their intentions are)
- snail mail each other. woohoo.
- ask the 10 or 100 or 1000 questions about each other (even before, I did this with Iman)
- play truth or dare (don't be too insensitive to your partner please ...)
- I got this from a website COOK & EAT together : "My boyfriend Neil and I are an ocean apart. (He is in England, I am in Michigan, USA.) On special days, usually Friday, we'll have a date night. A day or two before we'll plan a meal (We take turns giving each other recipes.) so that we can buy ingredients. We then dress how we would if we could really be together that night and eat together. This would be good with webcams, but neither of us owns one that works so we use chatrooms that we make ourselves. (iScribble, MSN, dA chatrooms, etc.) IMVU is also a very good idea for this, because you can dress your persona to how you would look. Try it! It's cute and fun, not to mention a good way to learn about the culture they're used to or one that they admire."
- Consider the fact that living far apart gives you both a chance to grow as individuals. Some couples 'break up' to find themselves but in a long distance relationship you both have enough space to do your own things and still have a connection.
- have hope for the both of you, you've come so far as one ... don't give up your loving in vain.
- Long distance relationships are difficult, as you are emotionally attached to a person you cannot touch or comfort and this can hurt your heart and wreak havoc with your emotions. The only way to make these relationships work is if you and your partner honestly believe you will be able to survive without each other for a considerable amount of time without the need or desire to be with someone else. (if you have plans or thoughts to be with someone else, get out of the relationship fast... it'll save the heartbreak!)
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