I'm going to begin with, " Honesty, the best policy ".
Now onward with our post :)
Let's just say you're about to start dating. Everyone around you gives you this same advice, " Just be yourself ".
But just how much of yourself should you be?
For instance, if you are a person who enjoys dirty humor, should you be looking for someone else who doesn't think dirty humor is the funniest thing on the planet? Definitely not if he wants to have a steady foundation in their relationship. So why do people still omit this important part of who they are when they meet another person?
You probably think that, " No girl is going to like that sort of thing " or " That wouldn't be a good conversation topic if I want her to like me ". But if this topic is so important to you, then why would you date someone on a different wavelength or frequency? The relationship then probably wouldn't even last that long.
Maybe that isn't really the case. Perhaps it's more like you're an avid gamer. In a conversation, you bring up the subject only to be shot down. But really, is it a loss for you? Rejection of this sort is the worst because this makes you feel nerdy, unsociable or not up to the other's expectations. It's ridiculous!
Ultimately, this sort of honestly comes down to this. If two people have TOO different tastes, what type of a relationship could they ever have? None.
Unless of course you're looking for something that doesn't last too long, say a one night stand or something of that nature then, by all means, " Hide the face, and F*** the base!" ( sorry for being crude.. )
But I'm not done just yet. One more thought. You're in a relationship, and your significant other comes up to you and says something that breaks your heart. For example, " I don't know what degree of love I have for you ". Whatever the other person says is for now, besides the point. What I'm trying to get at is this. Your significant other is just wanting to be honest with you! But it would hurt you so badly, yet a relationship is based on trust and honesty. ur heart.
My question to you is, honestly, how much honesty is too much?
Please let me know your thoughts, I'd really like to know.
For instance, if you are a person who enjoys dirty humor, should you be looking for someone else who doesn't think dirty humor is the funniest thing on the planet? Definitely not if he wants to have a steady foundation in their relationship. So why do people still omit this important part of who they are when they meet another person?
You probably think that, " No girl is going to like that sort of thing " or " That wouldn't be a good conversation topic if I want her to like me ". But if this topic is so important to you, then why would you date someone on a different wavelength or frequency? The relationship then probably wouldn't even last that long.
Maybe that isn't really the case. Perhaps it's more like you're an avid gamer. In a conversation, you bring up the subject only to be shot down. But really, is it a loss for you? Rejection of this sort is the worst because this makes you feel nerdy, unsociable or not up to the other's expectations. It's ridiculous!
Ultimately, this sort of honestly comes down to this. If two people have TOO different tastes, what type of a relationship could they ever have? None.
Unless of course you're looking for something that doesn't last too long, say a one night stand or something of that nature then, by all means, " Hide the face, and F*** the base!" ( sorry for being crude.. )
But I'm not done just yet. One more thought. You're in a relationship, and your significant other comes up to you and says something that breaks your heart. For example, " I don't know what degree of love I have for you ". Whatever the other person says is for now, besides the point. What I'm trying to get at is this. Your significant other is just wanting to be honest with you! But it would hurt you so badly, yet a relationship is based on trust and honesty. ur heart.
My question to you is, honestly, how much honesty is too much?
Please let me know your thoughts, I'd really like to know.
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