aloha people. sorry for the lack in posts. we've been busy :)

recently, over the past months, i was well, involved in a love triangle. yes. how scandalous. hehe:p and its really really screwed up and really complicated. but thats not the point. the point of today's post is when the boy, let call him... A told me that his girlfriend, B was trying to control him. trying to tell him how to be around his friends and all. and the thing that struck me the most is when he pointed out that i never used to do that to him.

boys. listen up.

just because your girlfriend doesnt say anything about you being close to another girl,
doesnt mean she is okay with it.

and even though she says she's okay with it,
she really isnt.

seriously.
because there will always be a sense of insecurity no matter what.

and that also applies to married people also. hahaha:p

blessed christmas ya'll!

a little thought here.

currently, in college, there is this friend of mine who is totally liking one of my gal friends. hehe:p so when we, namely the rest of the gang, found out that he liked her, started to tease him and stuff and asked him to admit to her. did he admit to her? yes he did. but but he started to act weird around her.

he had this constant worry about saying something wrong to her, or making a bad impression and he keeps on feeling as if he screwed things up.

how bad is it? bad. i hear about it everyday.

he even asked her whether she was jealous that me and him hang out together a lot. which was totally fine with her.

armed with that constant worry about making a bad impression or screwing up, he doesnt seem to be able to talk to her normally, like the way he talks to me and to the other guys. he always worries about EVERY SINGLE WORD that comes out of his mouth, which gets annoying cuz he keeps asking me whether he said something wrong when he TOTALLY didnt say anything wrong.

i feel like hitting on the head until he starts talking to her like a normal friend instead of being nervous and all cuz it makes it awkward for her.

sigh. are all guys this nervous when talking to girls they like?

BL : Hugs

Being touched is a good thing. Affection is a good thing. I like affection but I don't get enough of it.

I'm determined to have more than 3 post before the month is over. You hear me you other two lousy people who just don't update when I'm the one with finals tomorrow! Oh gosh! My finals are tomorrow. Hahahaa. I'm a goner for sure.

When you hug someone, make sure you give them a proper hug okay. Don't give them skinny hugs! I hate them the most. Must as well don't touch me, right?!

I'm actually a very hug-able person, but because all of you aren't, I don't hug you. I love hugs! I need hugs. Quite frequently.

It's really simple to give someone a hug. Main purpose of a hug is to feel warmth, comfort, and a pleaseing presence of another body against your own.

People feel good. People are warm. People smell nice. People are more real when you're touching them.

There are 2 types of hugs.

The Type A hug.
A type A hug is hugging bodies apart, shoulders touching, arms wrapped around each other. It's shaped just like the letter A, therefore the " A Type Hug".

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That above is suppose to be you, OKAY!

Type 1 Hug.

A type 1 hug is hugging with bodies together, touching, wrapped up against each other. It's shaped like the number 1.

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It's much better to give type 1 hugs because they involve more body contact and therefore, you're not giving off some unwanted message of, " I don't really like you but I'm just trying to be polite." which happens to be Type A hugs. I hate Type A hugs.

To hug someone, just think about comforting the person, feeling good and just stop being embarrassed about it because, there isn't anything to be embarrassed about!

I don't know why people are afraid to touch one another today.

I don't see hugs in the movies anymore. Not proper ones - bear hugs, lovers hugs, comforting hugs. It's sad.

Unlocking Shackles..

" If you love somebody,

set them free.

If they don't come back,

they weren't yours to begin with."

That's an old saying which attempted to make parting with a loved one easier. Or at least seem that way.

A nice thought in truth : That the bond between you and the other person is so strong it is able to endure beyond the boundaries ot distance and time.

A caution however is that, if you do decide to set someone you love free, make sure they know you're setting them free as opposed to discarding them like a worn piece of clothing.

Otherwise, you may just end up loosing your one true love in this world.

But really, can you will yourself to let go and break the shackles that bind you to one another? Are you brave enough to risk everything you both share? It's your precious moments, memories and bond.

It's really like opening the cage door of your favorite pet canary and praying that although it will fly out of the cage, it will return to you by evening. And if it doesn't, does that mean I got to the pet store and pick up a new pet?

DTR Talk..

It's been a while, hasn't it. This is going to be a really long post ( not kidding this time ) so please do read till the end. Smile! It's a lovely day; appreciate it.

Go back to primary school. You’re in the class room, and the teacher’s writing something on the black board ( yeah, they’re still using chalk! – which would sometimes come flying in your direction if you didn’t behave ) There is a soft buzz about the class with several students murmuring, fighting, bickering.

Well, there you are, not copying whatever the teacher is writing on the black board simply because you’re just going to borrow your friend’s notes later anyways. Why write it down now? Besides, if you do it now, you’d actually HAVE to answer the questions. Later? Answers are already there. Simple.

You look around your classroom and you see a boy sitting a few seats away. You think he looks good. His shirt is tucked in, his collar propped up properly and, not doing his work either. You keep staring and staring, and then when your eyes meet, for that split second, your stomach does a flip flop. And you think, “ I like him.”

Wasn’t that your first “ oh-so-significant other?”

You'd giggle, blush whenever your eyes meet, play catching with each other, collect saga seeds and even a pencil fight if things got really serious in the days of cooties and being chased in the playground. Back then you might have a boyfriend or girlfriend, meaning that you never talked to each other or sat together at lunch, but EVERYONE knew that you were a cute little couple.

They'd sing, " Britney and Kevin, sittin' in a tree...." – you know how that song goes.

This of course led to your face turning ten shades of red, and you’d be able to challenge a tomato for the “ Most Red Award.” And then, you decide you no longer liked your little friend anymore.

In standard 5 – about form 2 was couple-hood; without even going on a date to see if they liked each another. Remember? I like you, you like me = we are a couple. I’m sure it started with you being asked out first, then you told your parents that you’re going out with, “ Tom, Dick and Harry – if you’re a boy” or “ Rosy, Suzie and Lulu – if you’re a girl.” Your parents would flip if they found out you were going out one on one with a boy/girl. So you guys go for movie and a meal or something. Those were they days of 2 week couple and if you were together longer than a month, if meant you guys were serious and if it was longer than 3 months, you guys were going to get married.

Then when you “ graduated ” to being a high school student as in form 4 and 5, the big shots of the school, things began to solidify, a little, into specific categories, and the terms which defined all the stages of dating had become important. Friends would always ask, if not wonder how serious were things, or if you were just dating, “ experimental period ”etc.

So now in college, these problematic phrases and words are still plaguing me, and I'm sure they've caused problems for other people out there. Endless frustrations because neither of you wanted to say anything about where you guys stood, therefore both keep quite and go with the flow. The guy is wondering if he should ask her to be his “ official ” girlfriend; with label but he’s afraid to because he thinks the girl wouldn’t take him seriously. I mean, after all, he IS the class clown. Then the girl, sitting there night after night, sms-ing or on the phone wondering when this buffoon is going to “ pop the question ” so to speak, to ask her to be his official girlfriend and wondering why on earth he’s taking so long. I mean, it's understood; you like me, I like you, it only makes sense that we end up together.

Have you ever noticed the words we use to describe our romantic or intimate relationships? It’s completely ambiguous! Especially now that we’re in college so there are so many different people from all over the world. Different geographical areas and walks of life that we’re bombarded with an assortment of phrases that are neither sensible or accurate. Heck, most of the time it makes NO sense at all!

Take “we hooked up,” for example. What does that really mean? To one person, it might mean he kissed her good night. To another, it might mean they copulated so many times she lost count.

Then there’s “dating,” or even “seeing one another.” You first have to choose whether you want the exclusive or non-exclusive version of each. Non-exclusive means you both agree that this is an open relationship and that both are allowed to see other people. And if you opt for the exclusive approach, would you be willing to call that person your girlfriend or boyfriend? What is the label?

Also, dating there are two meanings or should I say grades.

Dating - Two people hanging out together who know the outing is not just a 'friends thing.' You can date as many people as you like. Dating comes after several “ outings ”, which is to say you aren’t really 'dating' after only one date or even two. No commitment or assurance that both of you will continue to pursue this budding relationship. Normally this is the non-exclusive grade.

Dating dating - Okay, this is where it gets tricky. The repetition of the word here is where the seriousness comes in. This is the same use as the familiar 'shopping shopping,' which, as everyone knows, is much more costly than mere 'shopping.' There is also a stress whenever saying these words. Now this is the more almost exclusive. One step away from being exclusive dating.

Going out - This is where two people are seeing each other exclusively. Dating other people is forbidden or, at any rate, not looked upon favorably by others ( especially your significant other). 'Going out' was, in our parents time referred to as “ going steady ” which was actually less ambiguous than our current wording, but hey, times were simpler.

The DTR talk – Heard of it? This stands for “ define the relationship ”, which strikes fear into the hearts of many. This is where one might say, 'So, um, where do you think we're going with this (gulp)?' The DTR talk is something that is inevitable in any dating situation that lasts for an extended period of time. However, once the DTR is completed, there is a resulting period of relief for at least one, and hopefully both parties.

Anyways, I find the slang, labels and lingo and it’s use highly confusing and useless. The dating game is difficult enough as it is without people getting confused about how to refer to their relationships, if you “ qualify ” for the label and if you don’t, then what’s going to happen to me?

I’m going to die an old spinster surrounded by cats.

It's inevitable that people are going to get their wires crossed during the process. Honestly, I think it's impossible not to. I think we all need a Oxford’s for our love lives. A dictionary to spell it out straight forwardly what is and what isn’t. You know, where the line is drawn to differentiate this and that. Even better, why don’t we banish all restrictive relationship speech and just go by our instincts? Share and share alike, be content to just chill with one another and not attach weighty titles to relationships at all. You got that, no labels. Shocked?

Girls - can you imagine the agony of having to wait to analyze everything that came out of a guy’s mouth because there were no rules?

Guys - can you imagine how much trouble you’d get in for using the wrong word when you don’t even realize it?

I am personally all about honesty, either from friends sharing their love-lost stories or in my own relationships. If you had sex last night, don’t tell me you “did the deed,” and don’t attempt to communicate through an even more revolting code language of synonyms for intercourse. We are not 13 anymore. Heck, most of us are legal! Though we’re asians and have a reputation for not being able to talk about these sort of things because it falls under the “ unmentionable category ”.

Likewise, even if it’s as simple as a girl liking a guy or vice versa, just go ahead and be honest ( yeah right, easier said than done! So true.. ). Perhaps you’re just looking for someone to hold you while you sleep, don’t be afraid to make that known and don’t fear to do so without promising things you can’t keep, all in an attempt to live up to the demands of a phonetic expression. Try not to name it and label it, just go with the flow. It’s kind of funny to think about, but really, if we stop assigning ranks and names, just maybe we’ll avoid all of those “games” we college students hate but can’t stop playing.

But then again, maybe this vocabulary simply serves as a checking agent to keep us on our toes, to keep things interesting. The chase it more fun than the actual prize; not true all the time though.I don’t know what I would do if I thought I understood my relationship all the time. So unfortunately, we are forced to embrace the ambiguity of modern romance and muddle through as best we can. Good luck out there, I’m going to go try to hook up with some friends.

a few days ago, an friend asked:

'how long does it take a girl to get over her ex?'

it really got me thinking ya know. some people get over relationships in a blink of an eye, some people take weeks, months, and probably even years.

in my view, how long a person gets over a relationship depends on how deep one has fallen for the other.

after hearing that from me, my friend exclaimed:

'but she said she left me after months of consideration.'

well. i dont know anything about that. but what i can say is, if u've fallen deep, it'll take longer for you to get over it.

like me.

pardon the emo-ness. hehe:p

Who Wants the Normal One Cause Plainly Normal is Alwayz Such a Bore

Sorry for the late update, I've just been crazily busy darlinz!

Nehowz..

The following applies to the girls who falls for the wrong boyz or better known as the bad boyz. This category of guyz can be further broken down. You have the playas, the ones who are into bad habits such as smoking or drinking and then there's the plain downright non normal types. I know the final catagory very well cause am one of those gurlz who seems to alwayz go for these type of guyz. I never to seem to like the normal, decent ones.*sigh*

The plain weird: The kind of guy that does not call you back after a date, says he'll message or call you but doesnt. Talks to you and acts extra nice when he feels like it or if its his good day. His somewhat possesive in his own quirky ways. Gets pissed off when you get close to any other guy and doesn't bother talking to you until his calm down. Says he likes you but drives you insane but doing the complete opposite gestures. Checks out girls in front of you and tells you have a self esteem problems when you get annoyed. He pisses you off cause his find your reactions amusing. Never falls for your cute moves. And knows exactly how to get his way with you!

Yes thats my defination of the weird boy. I've fallen for this type of guy multiple times and no matter how hard I try to stay away from them, they somehow found their way into my life. Wander what attracts us to them. Their quirkyness, the fact that they're not normal perhaps or maybe its the fact that they keep us constantly on our toes. It's alwayz a roller coaster ride from the beginning with them and sometimes you just wish it'll stop but when it does, you find yourself missing them.Like wth right! They drove you insane and never gave explanations but theres just something that makes you going back for more.

Getting into a relationship with these kind of guyz can have 2 outcomes:

1. He'll change his quirky ways for you because he lovez you

2. He'll stay the same cause that who he is and you have to adjust to him

If you really like the guy and you're willing to change for him then go ahead and be with him but if you want him to change, I suggest you don't put all your hope on this guy cause there is a 50% chance of him changing.Cause one day you may realize that the complete opposite happened. This I've learned from experiences. But also make sure you don't change him too much, you definately dont want to lose the guy you fell in love with.

So to the girlz who have a thing for these kind of guyz,be careful and watch out at all times. His not the best guy to fall in love with but if you're willing to make the effort for him, then go ahead and all the best.

Cheers to the weirdos!

-xoxo-
Izzy

PT : Love..

Just for the record, this post is not caused by anything I feel or because I'm emo or anything. Just some thoughts I thought were worth putting down here. Now that we've got that clear, let's move on :)

Falling in love. Why do they call it that? Why not " walking in love "," jumping in love", " wading in love", " diving in love " or any other expression? It's because all those verbs seem to point towards some sort of force of will. That you actually intended this to happen and most likely moved towards it in hopes of it happening. But that's not to say that nobody does not plan to fall in love. Am I confusing you? I hope not.

But when you fall in love, it's something that cannot be stopped, avoided and you can't help it! Of course, we try our best to avoid it, pushing, shoving and clinging on until we're so badly bruised, battered that we can hardly walk. But in the end, we're still sucked into this black hole called love.

That's why.

Like falling into one of those pits. It's not that you want to fall in. I mean, come on, nobody is that stupid to fall in on purpose. You could get hurt, but, like I said, you can't do anything about it.

And..

There's a HUGE difference between..

I love you..
and..
I'm in love with you.

Just think about it for a bit. Feedback is welcomed.

CheL's Test 101..

Posting because Izzy isn't updating. Posting because I don't want to study.

During lunch, I was having some problems with the tomato sauce. It. Just. Did. Not. Want. To. Come. OUT. I tried several ways to get it out. Turning the bottle, different angles, closing the cap, shaking it then pouring again but NOTHING seemed to make it come out.

Drastic measures were needed.

I began HITTING the BOTTOM of the BOTTLE while it was UPSIDEDOWN.

me : Imagine if I hit hit hit, then it got onto your shirt.
Adam : Yeah. Imagine if you were out on a date with a guy then you got it on his shirt. It would be funny! Then he dumps you. lol..
me : That ain't funny!
Adam : But then again, if he dumps you because of that it means he's not worth being around.

Then it occured to me, that was quite true.

Adam : You could like test him. Then it could become like a test for all guys.

And then * dramatic drum roll *, "Tomato Test"was BORN!

So, next time you go out on a date and you think the guy sitting across you might be a jerk and you need to make sure that you won't be making a mistake, do the Tomato Test!

Credits to Weng ~... I don't want to plagiarize now. lol..

Test was founded in Secret Recipe of PBD. Yup, that's where it's origin is. Impressive, huh.

Sorry lahhh. I'm fresh out of ideas for now! * sigh * ~..

okay. today's topic is a lil bit odd. haha:p i've sorta run out of ideas on what to write about. so forgive me *smiles*

last saturday i went out with a friend to one utama and we bumped into another friend. our conversation started like this:

hey! so long never see you guys alredi
*at this point, we laugh and hug and stuff lar*
so what you two doing here? pak thor ah?

it seems that everytime you go out alone with a person of the opposite sex, people automatically think you're like dating or something. we all modern ppl lar. can go out without actually being romantically involved. there's nothing wrong with that. that friend wasnt the only one who thought we were pak thor-ing. i also met one of my teachers in high school and he thought so too. gosh. dont assume lar. haha:p

another thing i wanna talk about is the meaning of the word date. according to the dictionary, *goes to grab dictionary and flips furiously through the pages* the word date means a appointment or a social engagement with a person, same sex or opposite sex. i remember having an argument with a certain person about this definition. the said person was taking an old school friend out to dinner and a movie and i told him to enjoy his date. he insisted that it wasnt a date because he doesnt like her! well. you can go on a date with a person you dont like you know. it says so, according to the dictionary.

thats all i have to say for now. haha:p till next time people. bye!

Dilemma of Decisions 101..

I was out with Adam yesterday. Eh, so potong lah Izzy post before me. Maybe i'll delay this post for another day or two. Yeah, I shall. Well, when I say yesterday I actually mean Sunday so.. well, it doesn't really matter.

Moving on, we began talking about how some girls end up dumping their boyfriends because the BOYfriend they don't act " man " enough so to speak. haha. Do you get it?

For example, we girls always want a guy who is " tough " so we can therefore feel " safe ". haha.. so cliche sounding, but just bear with me. Whenever we go out, we always want the guy to choose the movie, where we want to eat, decide where we're going, what we're going to do and so on so forth. Because if WE end up doing it all the time, we'd feel as though we were the more dominant one and that we wore the pants in the relationship.

On the other hand, from a guy's point of view, he thinks he is being the gentleman when he allows his lady friend to decide/choose what they're going to eat, where they're going to go, what they want to do, what they're going to watch.. etc. I can't even BEGIN to tell you how WRONG you are when you DO that.

* sigh *.

Guys, get it through your heads, we do NOT want to make decisions. Just make it for us! If we don't like it, don't worry. We're not stupid. We'd tell you if we were totally against something or couldn't put up with it, BUT if we say nothing then it's totally fine with us. Don't worry!

If everyone understands that then, we could avoid all the heartbreaks and problems that arise from the whole decision dilemma.

Also, as in the previous post, Izzy said that we're 21st Century women and the whole guy making the first/move also translated as being the dominant should be broken, honestly? MOST if not ALL women like to be in the submissive role. I'm not KIDDING. We like to be TAKEN CARE OF. hahaha.

We're such losers but then again, you can't live with us, can't live without us either.

Oh and.. I know sometimes, it's not that the guy doesn't want to choose but it's because he just doesn't know WHAT to choose. Ladies, give me some help lah. Kesian the fella a bit lah. Okay? Like they said, relationships are two ways from two people.

Suck it up guys, it's going to be a long bumpy ride. =D

Just A Thought

The other day most probably on Sunday..I can't seem to remember exactly when though..newayzz Ben and I were having this very interesting convo.And he was like "hey u could be put on caged emotions"..haha..I didnt even knew he read this..lolz

We were debating, mind you not arguing kies, about the whole "who is suppose to ask who out first/ tell the other party "their feelings" first. From his point of view, he was saying that it would be nice for a change if the gurl takes the effort to go up to the guy and tell him how he feels instead of alwayz the guy.He said that the tradition should be broken.While I was insisting that gurlz love it when a guy gathers up his guts and makes the move.It makes us feel rather speacial. Dont ya think!! :D And this has been practiced for a really long time, I just don't see the point of changing this just cause its the 21st century. It's called being a gentleman la. Well we went on about this for a while and headed to the relationship side of things.

The Following is The Summary:

1. A guy should be decent and pay for dates..its okies to occasional let her pay and ladies do be nice and take out your wallet once a while ya but guyz dont be a loserr and ask her to split the bill all the time by givin her the modern age talk! It just plainly means ur cheap!!

2. It's not alwayz up to the guy to make the girl feel special in a relationship. Sometimes its nice when you make the effort as well.Dont just sit there and wait him to shower you with attention and gifts. You'll be amused by the reactions you get!

Well I agreed on this both.A relationship takes 2.So I think you'll make him happy if you do something sweet every once a while :)

So far these were the two intersting topics we talked about.Will update more when we explore more issues like the above..!

xoxo
-Izzy-

have you ever heard anybody say that 2 ppl who are in a relationship cannot be good friends again after the relationship is over? i have. and i honestly do not see any reason why that cant happen.

this brings me back to my high school days, where my classmates were shocked to hear that i am good friends with my ex. they all thought it was impossible and that i was out of my mind. they asked me all sorts of questions like, like how could i possibly stay friends with an ex and why would i want to do so? they made it sound like it was such an unusual thing.

well. to me, there is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex. i mean, after all, im sure ur ex was once ur friend and there is no harm in being friends. maybe it won work so well for some of you, and it might go well for some, like me. it may take time and a little effort from both sides, but its not impossible.

so think about it. being friends with an ex is actually not a bad idea. i should know. im friends with all of them. hehe:p

Sperms and sperms = no kids.

I always believe the saying that, " There's someone out there for everyone."

But right now, the population of the world is 3 women to 1 man. So.. what does that mean?

Oh right, I also forgot to mention that there are lots of gays, bisexuals AND tranversites out there. Most transversites are guys chaging to become women. Which would make the population.. well, worst! Maybe even 3 real and 1 fake woman to 1 man..? o.O

Maybe.. in 500 years, we'd be extinct and the only way we'd continue living is my artificial insemination ( It's a big word that I can't spell! )..

Odd though. proper update in the near future. Just.. let me know what you think?

A boy and a Girl

I haven't been able to update much because of some family stuff thats been keeping insanely busy that I've barely had time to even update my own blog.So this is my 2nd post!

Lately this issue has been lingering in my mind.It's been rather conteversial and some plainly believe its impossible.But personally after much debate with myself and going through much experience; I've decided that this is possible

The Issue:

Is a guy and girl able to remain best friends and ONLY friends?

Ok so I know many of you are disagreeing me right now.Friends I have spoken to mostly have said its not possible and feelings are sure to get in the way. But after reading articles and much from personal experience, I think that if both sides work on it,it can work.

I'm not saying tha feelings won't develop.For one side,feelings will definately bloom or maybe it wont.This really depends on the two people and their chemistry and such.Sometimes one prefers to keep the feelings to themselves but then there are those that are willing to take the risk.

These situations may led to two outcomes:
1. A happy/good relationship

2. A bad relationship and a broken friendship

But the con here is that once you cross that line,there is really no going back.Seriously.Unless you are absolutely sure that the other party share the same feelings then take the chance and go for it but if you're in the middle and in the middle of the fence,it's best you give it time and see how it goes.

If you are in the following situation, analyze your situation and go with your heart.But also beware of the consequences..they are quite severe.

xoxo

hey again people. hope u all had a great merdeka weekend. long weekend. so today's topic is about guys and driving.

generally, i would say guys drive fast. out of all the cars i've sat in that were driven by guys, a rather large majority drives fast, unless their car memang super cacat and cannot drive fast lar. that one memang tada boleh tolong lar. haha:p

most guys are really competitive drivers. like when they see their friends on the road driving, and suddenly, a race is on and they press down on the accelerator as if their life depends on it. haha:p okay. that is a bit of an exaggeration but u get my point. right? and it sometimes happens when there is a girl in the car! which i think its like wrong man. lol.

yes they race. fine. but sometimes, it gets kinda dangerous, esp if like their cars are not meant for racing. super dangerous. and when we tell them, they give us this line

'boys will be boys'

so? u all trying to kill urself izzit? press accelerator and do stunt, cut here cut there on the road. so guys, please, dont do stupid things like race with each other on the road.

oh. and i do know of a guy who actually drives safer with a girl in the car. how about that guys? follow his example :) its a good one.

BL : Post-cooking

A new month, calls for a new post.

I shall be posting this on behalf of Izzy since she's been pretty tied up with several things. ( I'm guessing but, pretty sure I'm right. )

Pstt! BL in the title stands for Behavioral Lesson. Got that? Now that we've got that straight, let's continue.

We're focusing on Post-cooking in the Kitchen. You're probably wondering what I'm going on about. Well, this isn't just some wishful thinking but I actually know someone who acts this way, and I hope that other males would follow suit after reading this.

This lovely male is actually my uncle. Uncle Clifford, an ang moh but he has this mind set that, preparing a meal is responsibility of both. Here's what goes on.

Since his wife has prepared and cooked, therefore! He finds it HIS responsibility to WASH UP the ENTIRE KITCHEN. He shoos her out of the kitchen, piles all the dishes, and begins to wash up the entire place. Best part is that, once he's done, the kitchen is spotless and squeaky clean. * sigh *. Now THAT's a man.

I know how frustrating it is for us ladies to have to wash up after ourselves. I know I don't like baking/cooking little portions because the washing up after that is.. something I don't quite fancy. He even sweeps and mops after each time. That's a hero! =D in the kitchen at least. ahakz ~..

So cave men out there, learn to WASH UP AFTER YOUR WOMAN IN THE KITCHEN. She'll lov you tons for it. I promise!

Man Rules..

I was so tempted to post this on my personal blog but after some thought, I'm now convinced that it belongs here. I mean, why else did we create this blog if I didn't put things " where they belonged ", so to speak.

Hahaha. I found it super amusing! My comments shall be in italics. =D Enjoy ~.. J'son! I think you'd agree with this.

Man Rules

At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down. Finally, the guys' side of the story
( I must admit, it's pretty good )

We always hear ʽthe rules' From the female side

Now here are the rules from the male side

These are our rules!
Please note... they are all numbered '1' ON PURPOSE!


1. Men are NOT mind readers.
( I HAVE to agree, but sometimes they DO surprise you! )

1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
( more applicable to married couples...? )

1. Sunday sports It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
( I don't understand this.. )

1. Crying is blackmail.
( weird, but for a girl, i AGREE! )

1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one! Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
( Girls, we've really GOT to work on this part. )

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
( Dull creatures, aren't they.. but yet we fall for them anyways. )

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
( but we'd prefer it from them, no? )

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
( 7 days IS pretty long.. sorta.. )

1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
( we always want them to say we're the most beautiful creatures on the face of the earth and that they'd be so satisfied with us, they need nothing else. Wake up and smell the coffee! It don't happen that way. )

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
( just because we're details people and just KNOW what we want doesn't make it wrong..? )

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
( I agree! I can't stand people who talk during movies. Unless it's related/important. I absolutely detest! People who narrate. )

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have NO idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
( even if it's in public places. Ladies, get used to that! )

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say 'nothing,' We will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
( we just want them to ask just ONE more time to show they really ARE concern but do they? Most of the time, no. )

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really!

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as boxing or racing.

1. You have enough clothes.
( applicable to girls who actually like shopping.. )

1. You have too many shoes.
( refer to the above. )

1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!

1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know I have to sleep on the couch tonight; But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.

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There you have it. Ladies, had fun laughing? I smiled. Hahaha.

chel and i actually talked about something last night but i forgot what it was about. haha:p sorry. i got short term memory problem :P so here's my thought for the day.

'he just didnt try hard enough!'

how much can a person try before they are considered to have done enough? its a very subjective thing. the amount of effort required for each person to be satisfied is like totally different lar for each person, but somehow, its never enough.

especially for girls, we want guys to try. to go the extra mile. but somehow, guys just give up when they are like THIS close to reaching the amount of effort required. hmm. am i making sense here? lol. it gets really frustrating cuz it makes us girls feel like 'a bit more lar, then i would have *insert whatever the dude is trying for*' sounds familiar? yours truly is also in a situation where i think he should have tried harder. sigh.

thats all from me. till next time :)

CheL's Theories 101

Now that all three of the contributors have had the chance to say a piece, I shall start us off by introducing to your the great CheLCheL Theory of Quota.

I have a theory, based on several observations and self experience that almost proves it true. For that fact alone, it still remains a theory and not a law.

Definition of theory - Is not in any way an antonym of " fact "
Definition of law - Is a " fact "

For those of you who can't differentiate the two, there. Hehehe.

Anyways, I think that when you don't talk/look/call/touch/wtv else that means interraction with the person you keep thinking about, you'd become even MORE obsessed than if you actually had your " quota " for the day.

I'm serious!

It's like chocolates. When you abstain from them for SO LONG, you'd (almost) always end up stuffing your face with them rather than if you had a bit here and there along the way. Won't you agree with me? Because you lack that one thing/person so much (in which, stupid people end up ignoring/avoiding that particular person) you tend to go all out on the " attack " when you finally do make contact after that.

Does that make sense? I think it does.

THEREFORE, make sure you have your quota of the " chocolate " of your choice each day. Hehehe.. It'll help put off your craving for them.

* grins *. Coming in the very NEAR future, CheL's Theories 102!

- CheL.

hey guys. lee en in the house! haha:p i think my posts are rather recognisable cuz i dont put titles on my posts. i just feel lazy to think of something to put as a title, so hence the no-title thingy. even if you come to my personal blog, i dont think i've ever had a post with a title o.o anyways back to the point of this post. i am too one of the contributors to this one-of-a-kind blog. okay. maybe it isnt but i would like to think so :p oh well. am looking forward to contributing to this bloggie. gotta go. dinner's calling. bye y'all!

Hey Ho Ppl!

Hey hey!!
Izzy(Ezreena) here!
This was a random idea that popped into rachel's head at about 1 a.m. and I thought it was brillant..:D
I don't really know who else are the authors here..yet to find out..
It's definately no feminane thing okies!!
This is more of a guideline/theory thing...haha

Its gonna be one hell of an intersting blog ppl
So visit often and we'll try to update as much as we can!!! :)

xoxo
-Izzy-

Purpose?

I know, you're probably reading this and wondering why we have so many blogs apart from our own and the others that we share but I really think this is going to work! ( at least I hope ).

Bunch of girls, frustrated with the world of men who can't understand a thing about them have decided to actually share their many proven/unproven theories, thoughts and insights in every day life of modernized 21st Century women who aren't really feminist. It'll probably be more entertaining than anything else though. Helpful? Hahaha.. Maybe not.

Amusing? HELL YEAH! I mean.. err.. YEAH! * says it very enthusiastically *

And the name isn't permanent. I just couldn't come up with anything else yet. Might change, but for now, welcome to ][ Caged Emotions ][ where they are just about to be released :)

- CheL -
][ Founder of CE ][